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June 20, 2020
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Cryptocurrency vs. Fiat: Follow the Money Printing

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The Story of Inflation and Hyperinflation

People don’t think much about currency; they just use it. They don’t notice a currency holding its value; they only notice when it doesn’t. Historically, the most frequent cause of a currency losing its value is: governments printing money.

To illustrate the effect, let’s consider a very simple example. There are 100 pencils for sale, and there is a demand for exactly 100 pencils. If there is $100 available to buy the pencils, the price will tend towards $1 per pencil. Increase the supply of dollars to $200, and the price moves towards $2. The supply of pencils and the demand for them did not change, but the supply of money did, and it pushed up the price.

In a big America-size economy with millions of people and millions of things to buy, the same thing happens. If the economy remains the same, but you increase the supply of money, the prices rise — which means that the value of the dollar falls.

If the change in value becomes noticeable, people will spend the dollars as fast as they can, because the value of the dollar is falling. If they don’t need to buy with their dollars, they will buy something that will keep its value (gold, silver, or whatever). The currency has become “debased”.

Such inflation occurs when a government prints money like it’s going out of style, and naturally, it does go out of style.

How Does the Fed Print Money?

In truth, it doesn’t print anything. You may picture the Federal Reserve commanding printing presses to spew out vast numbers of pristine 100 dollar bills. But that isn’t the mechanism “for money printing”. Paper dollars account for only about one-tenth of the dollar money supply.

The full dollar money supply includes sources of money that are rarely converted into dollar bills but could be: money in checking accounts, savings accounts, money orders, 24-hour money market funds, certificates of deposit, and so on.

When the Fed prints money, it does so by extending credit to (i.e., loaning money to) the banks and managing the interest rate they have to pay. The banks can then, if they so choose, lend that money to people or businesses and it will find its way into those various sources of money. That’s how the game is played.

Does This Mean the Fed Can Print as Much Money as It Pleases?

Not really. If you listen to the financial news once in a while, you’ll hear reports about the regular monthly meeting held by the Fed, what the Fed chose to do, and how the financial markets reacted.

If the Fed starts printing money in a big way, the markets will react negatively. The Fed prefers not to roil the markets unless it has no choice. If theFed wants to mess with the money supply it has to explain itself.

If the Fed Lends Money to the Banks, Do the Banks Have to Lend It Out?

No. In fact, they don’t have to accept the money at all. But lending is how banks make money. Typically, banks lend out more than they borrow from the Fed. They could lend out, say, ten times what they borrowed. This is called “fractional reserve banking.”

If the banks make good lending decisions and the borrowers payback, then everything is hunky-dory. Problems arise when banks make too many bad loans. That’s when banking collapses occur. That’s why banks are regulated.

So How Does That Compare to Cryptocurrencies?

Cryptocurrencies are not like that at all. Not even close.

With a cryptocurrency, there is no Fed. And there is no fractional reserve banking. Software controls the money supply and people never have a say in it.

With Bitcoin, for example, the money supply grows gradually — currently at about 3.85% per annum. It is slowing down. It will eventually come to a stop when 21,000,000 Bitcoin have been created.

The supply grows because (and only because) Bitcoin miners are paid in Bitcoin for mining blocks. The increase in the supply of Bitcoin is the payments made to miners.

Miners are also paid the transaction fees from each block. Eventually, when all the 21,000,000 Bitcoin have been created, the Bitcoin miners will make a living from transaction fees alone.

Other Cryptos

Different cryptos have different money supply growth rates. Most (like Litecoin and Ethereum) imitate Bitcoin and have a declining growth rate. Others, like Permission (ticker: ASK) and XRP (Ripple), have zero growth rates.

In each case, the blockchain ensures either that no new crypto can be created or enforces the rate at which the new crypto is created. The only currency in existence there is the cryptocurrency recorded on the blockchain.

Is It Possible to Have “Fractional-Reserve Banking” With a Cryptocurrency?

No. This needs to be well understood, because — aside from the automated nature of the crypto money supply — it is the critical difference between fiat currency and crypto.

With fractional-reserve banking, a bank borrows, say $1 million from the Fed. It then loans out, say, $10 million. $9 million are thus “created from nowhere”. Yes they are recorded in bank accounts, and they circulate around, and eventually, most of those dollars are paid back. So they exist, “sort of”.

But do you know what happens if the borrower cannot pay the bank back and instead goes bankrupt?

Those dollars disappear. They vanish as if they never existed.

That’s what happens in a banking crash. Too many loans go bad, and the bank itself goes bankrupt — unless the Fed lends it some money to stay afloat.

None of that can happen with a cryptocurrency, because the amount of currency created is always there on the blockchain. It may pass from one owner to another, but it is always right there.

Would It Be Different if the Dollar Was Backed by Gold?

The dollar was backed by Gold once. And so were other currencies. The Gold standard was first abandoned when the First World War broke out. The countries involved in the war could not afford the war, so they printed money to pay for it.

If your currency is backed by gold, it is exchangeable for gold. If you print money like a drunken sailor, people buy gold with it, your gold reserves are quickly exhausted and the currency collapses. So if you back a currency with gold, you just cannot afford to print money. With crypto it’s quite similar, you simply can’t print money.

Fiat and Crypto Are Staggeringly Different

People earn money, buy stuff with it, and squirrel it away under a mattress but understand very little about its nature. We hope to change that though, so provided below is a stepwise introduction to both money and cryptocurrency.

A Mild Dose of History

The alternative to money is barter, and when money fails — as it does in situations of hyperinflation (caused by moronic politicians believing you can print mountains of money without consequences) — barter takes over.

Then people have to find ways of swapping goods and services with each other and it’s complicated. The problem is that without money there is no unit of measure for value. You know this already.

You have an inner psychic mechanism that assigns value to things based on the currency you are familiar with: Dollars in the US, Balboas in Panama, Quetzals in Guatemala, and Dongs in Vietnam.

Cryptocurrency Exchange

Try changing countries. If you’ve ever done that, you’ll know it’s hard to adjust your sense of value because costs are different, taxation varies, trade barriers exist and different (cultural) values predominate.

Small tribal communities of hunter-gatherers can survive without money by sharing everything according to some established order, but this doesn’t scale well. Even in tribal societies that use barter, usually a “unit of value” emerges. This happens so naturally that some academics claim there are no pure barter economies.

The Measure of Value

The prime function of a currency, then, aside from payment is to provide a stable unit of value. Effective currencies are difficult to invent because people cheat. A good currency needs to be cheat-proof.

Many things have been tried as currencies, including:

  1. Food (Salt, from which comes the word “salary”. Also cocoa beans, turmeric spice wrapped in coconut fibers. And incidentally, Parmigiano Reggiano and Parma Ham are still used as collateral at some Italian banks)
  2. Cowries (she hoards seashells by the seashore)
  3. Cigarettes
  4. Coins — bronze, silver, and gold
  5. Hard to forge paper portraits of presidents with numbers on them
  6. Electronic records attached to a blockchain, using cryptography

And Now Something Different: What Is a Reserve Currency?

I do think some digital currency will end up being reserve currency of the world. I see a path where that’s going to happen.

I agree with Brain Armstrong (CEO of Coinbase) that a cryptocurrency will eventually become the world’s reserve currency. To think about what that means you need to know what a reserve currency is.

A reserve currency (sometimes called an anchor currency) is a currency is used in international transactions and hence a currency that is “global.”

There needs to be a unit of value to price internationally traded commodities (oil, copper, tin, wheat, cocoa, etc.). Right now, the US dollar is that unit.

The only other significant reserve currencies are the Euro, the Japanese Yen, and the British Pound. The dollar dominates (estimates suggest 62% of foreign reserves held in dollars, 20% held in Euros, with the Pound and the Yen at about 5%).

The human need to price things ensures that one reserve currency dominates. At the moment, it is the US Dollar. Before that, it was the Pound

Is There an Advantage to Being a Reserve Currency?

For a country, yes. Right now all nations (and most international businesses) hold copious quantities of dollars. The US gets to print them and other countries have to buy them. This enables the US to run a much bigger balance of payments deficit than any other country. A persistent balance of payments deficit in other countries soon impacts the value of their currency.

Since the end of WWII, the US has leveraged this to boost the US standard of living. The downside is that the US has built up substantial debt. In 1985, it ceased being a net creditor nation and became a net debtor nation — and the debt grew like bamboo in spring.

Everyone else was helping to finance the US standard of living.

Will it end badly?

Yes, it will, at some point. When those US dollars get homesick and fly back to the US, they will inflate the stateside supply of US dollars, which will, in turn, drive up prices. The natives will surely become restless.

What Is the Money Supply?

If you ask this question of most cryptocurrencies you get the same answer. The supply of the currency is determined by an algorithm. With some cryptocurrencies — the Permission Token and Ripple are examples — the money supply is fixed from the get-go. When that’s the case, the currency is said to be “pre-mined”.

So for crypto, either an algorithm determines the growth of the money supply, or it is fixed at birth. This is not the case with National currencies or “fiat currencies” as they are often called.

In case you didn’t know “fiat” is Latin for “let there be”. According to the Old Testament, the first recorded words of God were “fiat lux” (let there be light). The label “fiat money” is not a sarcastic term that emerged from the crypto community, but an Americanism dating back to circa 1870–75 pointing out that paper money has no intrinsic value.

This is the defining difference between cryptocurrencies and all other currencies. The money supply of a cryptocurrency is fixed and immutable. With all other currencies, including gold, the money supply is not fixed and immutable.

Some people have a deep faith in gold as a currency because the supply and its destruction (through loss and industrial use) are roughly the same and have been for a few centuries.

However, when the Spanish filched the Aztec and Inca gold, the supply of gold in Spain grew dramatically. There was gold-provoked inflation.

If new highly productive gold deposits were discovered at the bottom of the ocean or on a mineable asteroid or wherever it could happen again.

With crypto, the money supply is publicly displayed on a bullet-proof blockchain. It cannot be manipulated. The crypto money supply is thus easy to understand. With fiat currency, it is not, as we shall see.

What Are Notes and Coins?

When we speak of the fiat money supply there are four species; usually labeled M0, M1, M2, and M3. They live inside each other like Russian dolls.

The first of these, MO, is the easiest to understand; it is the coins and notes in circulation. This is what most people think of as money because you can touch and see it.

Most fiat money of this species. In the US such money accounts for about 8.3% of the dollars in circulation. It’s the same for most other currencies.

Curiously there is no equivalent of this kind of money with a cryptocurrency. This kind of money is “bearer money”. If you carry it, you own it. Nothing about notes or coins enable you to prove ownership.

Cryptocurrency is always held in a wallet and belongs to the wallet owner. Muggers cannot steal it from you.

Of course, hackers can steal it from you and fraudsters may find ingenious ways to lay their hands on it, but in either case, it will be because you took insufficient care of it — you allowed it to be vulnerable.

Paper notes and coins can be lost or destroyed. And that too is the product of carelessness.

Ragged, Worn, and Torn Notes

Paper notes wear out, provoking the mint to renew them with pristine replacements. To make money, you have to spend money. The perpetual printing activity costs about 5 cents (for $1 and $2 bills), about 10 cents (for $5, $10, $20, and $50 bills), and 12.3 cents for Benji’s.

It doesn’t sound expensive, but for every $1 bill it costs ¢1 to keep it in circulation and for a year, and as there are 11.7 billion such notes, were looking at over $110 million per annum just for $1 bills.

With cryptocurrency, there is no equivalent cost, and perhaps that is an advantage — or perhaps it is not. Paper money does not require electricity. It can be used when your battery dies.

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For years, concerns about the harm social media platforms cause children were categorized as “alleged.” In the spring of 2026, juries started using different words: negligent, deceptive, unconscionable. Courts are now saying what parents have long suspected: the design was the harm. Here is what the courtroom evidence now shows and why parents should be paying close attention.

Before a Child Can Tell Fact From Fiction

Before children are developmentally equipped to distinguish fact from fiction, digital systems have already begun influencing how they think, what captures their attention, and how they begin forming their sense of identity.

Social media platforms no longer function as just communication tools today. They increasingly shape how children develop self-worth, regulate emotion, build social relationships, and understand the world around them.

For years, concerns surrounding children’s relationship with technology were often dismissed as parental anxiety or treated as speculation. That argument is becoming harder to sustain.

Across courtrooms, regulatory investigations, internal company disclosures, and mounting scientific research, a clear pattern is emerging: some of the world’s largest technology companies have built systems that maximize engagement by exploiting psychological vulnerabilities in young users, while parents remain largely unaware of what they have actually consented to.

The issue is no longer whether these systems pose risks to children.

The more urgent question is whether the systems themselves will fundamentally change, or whether society will continue documenting the damage in real time while continuing to participate in the very system that creates it. 

The Environment Around Childhood Has Changed

The environment children grow up in has changed.

Why are children so easily targeted by these platforms? In adolescence, the regions that govern judgment and emotional steadiness are still maturing, while those that respond to approval, comparison, and reward are already highly active. These platforms are designed to pull on exactly those urges - through likes, notifications, feeds that never end, and "recommended for you" videos that keep coming.

The American Psychological Association has warned that this combination leaves minors more prone to compulsive use, and more exposed to the emotional toll of measuring themselves by how others react to them online.

As reported in Parenting in the Age of AI: Why Tech Is Making Parenting Harder — and What Parents Can Do, parenting got harder because the environment has shifted.

For the first time, families are raising children inside digital environments designed to maximize engagement  and continuously compete for attention. Traditional parenting tools now operate against these systems that are created to keep children online for as long as possible.

What many parents experience as daily frustration is often not a parenting challenge. It is the result of an environment intentionally optimized to override the limits parents try to set.

What the Lawsuits Prove

For years, the harm caused by digital platforms was “alleged.” 

That is changing rapidly.

Between 2024 and 2026, a series of major lawsuits against companies including Meta, TikTok, Google, Character.AI and OpenAI have moved beyond accusation and into courtrooms where evidence is now being publicly examined.

These lawsuits all share something important: they don't blame a single video or post for harming a child. They blame how the apps themselves are built — the endless scroll, the recommendations that decide what your child sees next, the AI designed to keep them watching.

For years, companies argued they couldn't be held responsible for what users posted on their platforms. These cases now point to the design itself, the features built to capture and hold a child's attention. Courts are now increasingly letting those claims move forward. 

The courts, claims, design features and outcomes are laid out in Appendix A.

The Pattern

Across nearly every major lawsuit involving child safety and digital platforms, an alarming pattern continues to repeat itself.

  • Internal research identifies harm early.
  • Executives are made aware of developmental, psychological, and behavioral risks to minors.
  • Product teams continue implementing design choices that increase engagement despite those findings.
  • Public messaging continues emphasizing safety while internal evidence often tells a different story.

Only after years of public pressure do regulators or courts intervene.

When growth and user wellbeing compete, technology companies have repeatedly demonstrated which one wins. While accountability has almost always arrived only after harm has already occurred.

The Consent Parents Never Gave

At the center of nearly every child safety dispute in technology sits a deeper issue that receives far less attention: consent.

Modern internet platforms operate under the assumption that consent has been obtained simply because a user clicked “I agree.”

But clicking “I agree” was never meaningful consent.

Meaningful consent requires understanding consequences.

Yet most parents are never clearly told:

  • How algorithms shape what children see.
  • How behavioral data is continuously collected and analyzed.
  • How engagement systems are designed around psychological reward loops.
  • How platforms measure emotional responses, attention patterns, and behavioral tendencies to optimize retention.
  • How artificial intelligence systems increasingly personalize influence in ways families cannot see.

Parents were never fully informed about the environments their children were entering.

Will Anything Change?

What gets accepted today becomes the default tomorrow. 

The risks, the design choices and the outcomes are now well documented.

Much of what happens next will be shaped by a series of major bellwether cases already underway. The 2026 verdicts in K.G.M. v. Meta and State of New Mexico v. Meta were early signals.

Federal litigation is now accelerating through MDL 3047, where more than 2,600 cases against major tech companies have been consolidated, with the first federal bellwether trial beginning in June 2026.

The outcomes of these cases will help define the future relationship between families and technology.

At Permission, we closely monitor this litigation because it keeps returning to the same core truth: parents deserve to know what their children are actually consenting to — and children deserve to grow up in environments designed to support their development, not exploit their vulnerabilities.

Parents deserve to understand these environments while they are still evolving, not years later, after the consequences are already visible. And children deserve to grow up in environments designed to support their development, not exploit their vulnerabilities.

Learn more about why AI needs permission (and what it means for your family) at AI needs Permission. Permission is actively tracking this litigation and the broader shift it represents for families, AI, and the future of consent online.

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What Every Parent Needs to Know Before Handing Over the iPad

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Spring Break used to mean board games and bike rides.

Now it means 8+ hours a day on TikTok, Roblox, Snapchat.

Most kids are back in school now. But if you noticed something a little off this past week, you're not imagining it. If you're still bracing for the screentime fights, the "just five more minutes" negotiations, the device-at-dinner standoffs, you're not alone. But there's a better way to handle this than becoming the screentime police.

Here's what's actually happening on your kids' devices, and what you can do about it:

The honest truth: more free time = higher risk of social media addiction

During school breaks, kids average 3.5-4 extra hours of screen time per day.

That's not just YouTube and Minecraft. That's unstructured time on platforms that are designed by teams of engineers and behavioral psychologists to keep your child scrolling, clicking, and coming back.

In 2026, it's not just the amount that's shifted — since 2020, daily time on short-form video like TikTok and Reels has increased 14x for younger children.

This isn't an accident. A former Meta researcher described Instagram internally as "a drug." A YouTube internal document listed "viewer addiction" as a goal. A Meta employee even told colleagues: “We're basically pushers.”

Spring Break is one of the highest-risk weeks of the year for unsupervised screen use. More free time, less structure, and the same algorithms running 24 hours a day, messing with your children's attention around the clock.

What's actually happening on the platforms your kids use most

TikTok and Instagram use dopamine loops, short bursts of reward, to make scrolling feel impossible to stop. There is no natural endpoint. The algorithm learns what keeps your child watching and serves more of it, regardless of whether it's healthy. Landmark 2026 jury verdicts have recently found these platforms liable for intentionally designing addictive features that contribute to depression and anxiety in minors.

Roblox and Discord are where a lot of the real danger hides. Unmoderated voice chat, private group invitations, and off-platform contact attempts are common. Predators use these platforms specifically because parents underestimate them. Current multidistrict litigation (MDL 3166) alleges that these companies have failed to implement basic safeguards to prevent the grooming and exploitation of children.

Character.ai and ChatGPT don't verify ages. Kids as young as 8 are forming emotional attachments to AI companions, sharing things they'd never tell a parent or friend. There is no guardrail on what those conversations become. Recent wrongful death lawsuits highlight cases where minors engaged in harmful, obsessive relationships with AI, leading to tragic outcomes.

Snapchat was built around disappearing content, which means disappearing evidence. AI nudification tools are now accessible to teenagers directly through third-party apps that connect to Snapchat. State Attorneys General in Texas and New Mexico have filed suits alleging the platform is a "marketplace for predators" and facilitates the spread of non-consensual deepfake material.

This isn't about scaring you. It's about making sure you're not the last to know.

Stop being the screentime police. Become their coach instead.

Here's the shift that actually works.

The screentime police approach, counting minutes, setting timers, fighting nightly, doesn't build safe habits. It builds resentment. And the moment your kid is out from under your roof, those habits disappear entirely.

The better approach is mentorship. Think about how a great coach works. They don't bench their best player for making a mistake. They show them what went wrong, explain why it matters, and help them do better next time. That's what your kid needs from you on digital safety.

That means shifting from how long they're on a device to what they're seeing and whether they know how to handle it. A 15-minute conversation about what to do when a stranger DMs them on Discord is worth more than a screentime timer.

You don't need to be a tech expert to have that conversation. You just need the right information and the right words.

Three things to do this week (that aren't "take the phone away")

  1. Know which platforms they're actually using. Ask your kid to show you their five most-used apps. Don't make it an interrogation, make it curious. "What's this one? What do you do on it?" You'll learn more in five minutes than any parental control software will tell you.
  2. Have one real conversation, not ten small arguments. Pick a moment when you're both relaxed, not when you're already frustrated about screen time. Tell them what you know about how these platforms work. Not to lecture, to inform. Kids respond much better to "here's how TikTok is designed to keep you scrolling" than "put the phone down."
  3. Set expectations together, not rules from above. Ask your kid what they think fair looks like. You'll be surprised. Most kids actually have a sense of what's healthy, they just need permission to use it. Building the agreement together means they're far more likely to stick to it.

What your family values have to do with it

Every family is different. What's acceptable in one household isn't in another, and that's exactly how it should be.

The problem with most parental control tools is that they're built around a one-size-fits-all set of restrictions. Block this app. Limit that one. It creates friction, not understanding.

The better approach starts with your values. What do you actually care about for your kids? Safety, yes, but also independence, trust, and the skills they'll need when you're not there. The goal isn't to block everything. It's to raise a kid who makes good choices when you're not in the room.

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Parenting In the Age of AI: Why Tech Is Making Parenting Harder – and What Parents Can Do

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Many parents sense a shift in their children’s environment but can’t quite put their finger on it.

Children aren't just using technology. Conversations, friendships, and identity formation are increasingly taking place online - across platforms that most parents neither grew up with nor fully understand. 

Many parents feel one step behind and question: How do I raise my child in a tech world that evolves faster than I can keep up with?

Why Parenting Feels Harder in the Digital Age

Technology today is not static. AI-driven and personalized platforms adapt faster than families can.

Parents want to raise their children to live healthy, grounded lives without becoming controlling or disconnected. Yet, many parents describe feeling:

  • “Outpaced by the evolution of AI and Algorithms”
  • “Disconnected from their children's digital lives”
  • “Concerned about safety when AI becomes a companion”
  • “Frustrated with insufficient traditional parental controls”

Research shows this shift clearly:

  • 66% of parents say parenting is harder today than 20 years ago, citing technology as a key factor. 
  • Reddit discussions reveal how parents experience a “nostalgia gap,”  in which their own childhoods do not resemble the digital worlds their children inhabit.
  • 86% of parents set rules around screen use, yet only about 20% follow these rules consistently, highlighting ongoing tension in managing children’s device use.

Together, these findings suggest that while parents are trying to manage technology, the tools and strategies available to them haven’t kept pace with how fast digital environments evolve.

Technology has made parenting harder.

The Pressure Parents Face Managing Technology

Parents are repeatedly being told that managing their children's digital exposure is their responsibility.

The message is subtle but persistent: if something goes wrong, it’s because “you didn’t do enough.”

This gatekeeper role is an unreasonable expectation. Children’s online lives are always within reach, embedded in education, friendships, entertainment, and creativity. Expecting parents to take full control overlooks the reality of modern childhood, where digital life is constant and unavoidable.

This expectation often creates chronic emotional and somatic guilt for parents. At the same time, AI-driven platforms are continuously optimized to increase engagement in ways parents simply cannot realistically counter.

As licensed clinical social worker Stephen Hanmer D'Eliía explains in The Attention Wound: What the attention economy extracts and what the body cannot surrender, "the guilt is by design." Attention-driven systems are engineered to overstimulate users and erode self-regulation (for children and adults alike). Parents experience the same nervous-system overload as their kids, while lacking the benefit of growing up with these systems. These outcomes reflect system design, not parental neglect.

Ongoing Reddit threads confirm this reality. Parents describe feeling behind and uncertain about how to guide their children through digital environments they are still learning to understand themselves. These discussions highlight the emotional and cognitive toll that rapidly evolving technology places on families.

Parenting In A Digital World That Looks Nothing Like The One We Grew Up In

Many parents instinctively reach for their own childhoods as a reference point but quickly realize that comparison no longer works in today’s world.  Adults remember life before smartphones; children born into constant digital stimulation have no such baseline.

Indeed, “we played outside all day” no longer reflects the reality of the world children are growing up in today. Playgrounds are now digital. Friendships, humor, and creativity increasingly unfold online.

This gap leaves parents feeling unqualified. Guidance feels harder when the environment is foreign, especially when society expects and insists you know how.

Children Are Relying on Chatbots for Emotional Support Over Parents

AI has crossed a threshold: from tool to companion.

Children are increasingly turning to chatbots for conversation and emotional support, often in private.

About one-in-ten parents with children ages 5-12 report that their children use AI chatbots like ChatGPT or Gemini. They ask personal questions, share worries, and seek guidance on topics they feel hesitant to discuss with adults.

Many parents fear that their child may rely on AI first instead of coming to them. Psychologists warn that this shift is significant because AI is designed to be endlessly available and instantly responsive (ParentMap, 2025).

Risks include:

  • Exposure to misinformation.
  • Emotional dependency on systems that can simulate care but cannot truly understand or respond responsibly.
  • Blurred boundaries between human relationships and machine interaction.

Reporting suggests children are forming emotionally meaningful relationships with AI systems faster than families, schools, and safeguards can adapt (Guardian, 2025; After Babel, 2025b)

Unlike traditional tools, AI chatbots are built for constant availability and emotional responsiveness, which can blur boundaries for children still developing judgment and self-regulation — and may unintentionally mirror, amplify, or reinforce negative emotions instead of providing the perspective and limits that human relationships offer.

Why Traditional Parental Controls are Failing

Traditional parental controls were built for an “earlier internet,” one where parents could see and manage their children online. Today’s internet is algorithmic.

Algorithmic platforms bypass parental oversight by design. Interventions like removing screens or setting limits often increase conflict, secrecy, and addictive behaviors rather than teaching self-regulation or guiding children on how to navigate digital spaces safely (Pew Research, 2025; r/Parenting, 2025).

A 2021 JAMA Network study found video platforms popular with kids use algorithms to recommend content based on what keeps children engaged, rather than parental approval. Even when children start with neutral searches, the system can quickly surface videos or posts that are more exciting. These algorithms continuously adapt to a child’s behavior, creating personalized “rabbit holes” of content that change faster than any screen-time limit or parental control can manage.

Even the most widely used parental control tools illustrate this limitation in practice, focusing on: 

  • reacting after exposure (Bark)
  • protecting against external risks (Aura)
  • limiting access (Qustodio)
  • tracking physical location (Life360)

What they largely miss is visibility into the algorithmic systems and personalized feeds that actively shape children’s digital experiences in real time.

A Better Approach to Parenting in the Digital Age

In a world where AI evolves faster than families can keep up, more restrictions won’t solve the disconnection between parents and children. Parents need tools and strategies that help them stay informed and engaged in environments they cannot fully see or control.

Some companies, like Permission, focus on translating digital activity into clear insights, helping parents notice patterns, understand context, and respond thoughtfully without prying.

Raising children in a world where AI moves faster than we can keep up is about staying present, understanding the systems shaping children’s digital lives, and strengthening the human connection that no algorithm can replicate.

What Parents Can Do in a Rapidly Changing Digital World

While no single tool or rule can solve these challenges, many parents ask what actually helps in practice.

Below are some of the most common questions parents raise — and approaches that research and lived experience suggest can make a difference.

Do parents need to fully understand every app, platform, or AI tool their child uses?

No. Trying to keep up with every platform or feature often increases stress without improving outcomes.

What matters more is understanding patterns: how digital use fits into a child’s routines, moods, sleep, and social life over time. Parents don’t need perfect visibility into everything their child does online; they need enough context to notice meaningful changes and respond thoughtfully.

What should parents think about AI tools and chatbots used by kids?

AI tools introduce a new dynamic because they are:

  • always available
  • highly responsive
  • designed to simulate conversation and support

This matters because children may turn to these tools privately, for curiosity, comfort, or companionship. Rather than reacting only to the technology itself, parents benefit from understanding how and why their child is using AI, and having age-appropriate conversations about boundaries, trust, and reliance.

How can parents stay involved without constant monitoring or conflict?

Parents are most effective when they can:

  • notice meaningful shifts early
  • understand context before reacting
  • talk through digital choices rather than enforce rules after the fact

This shifts digital parenting from surveillance to guidance. When children feel supported rather than watched, conversations tend to be more open, and conflict is reduced.

What kinds of tools actually support parents in this environment?

Tools that focus on insight rather than alerts, and patterns rather than isolated moments, are often more helpful than tools that simply report activity after something goes wrong.

Some approaches — including platforms like Permission — are designed to translate digital activity into understandable context, helping parents notice trends, ask better questions, and stay connected without hovering. The goal is to support parenting decisions, not replace them.

The Bigger Picture

Parenting in the age of AI isn’t about total control, and it isn’t about stepping back entirely.

It’s about helping kids:

  • develop judgment
  • understand digital influence
  • build healthy habits
  • stay grounded in human relationships

As technology continues to evolve, the most durable form of online safety comes from understanding, trust, and connection — not from trying to surveil or outpace every new system.