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July 15, 2021
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What Is an Ad Blocker: Everything You Need to Know

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Wherever you go, you will get bombarded with tons of ads on the internet.

While many of them provide value, the massive amount of advertisements can easily become disturbing for users as they try to enjoy their favorite activities in the digital world.

In fact, some publishers place so many ads in their apps and websites that it prevents users from enjoying the actual content.

Fortunately, using an ad blocker is an excellent way to remain (nearly) advertisement-free on the web.

In this article, we will explore what an ad blocker is, how ad blocking works, its benefits and downsides, as well as the actual methods to prevent advertisers from ruining your online experience.

The Problem With the Current Online Advertising Landscape

Before we dive into our topic, let’s first take a look at the problem ad blockers are meant to solve: the disturbing and intrusive nature of the current online advertising landscape.

Before the age of the internet, people encountered ads mostly in newspapers, on TV, radio, and billboards.

While the average person was exposed to between 500 advertisements a day during the 1970s, this number surged to a daily 5,000 by 2007.

With the rise of digital advertising, we now see an estimated 4,000-10,000 advertisements every day, which can be quite overwhelming.

And it’s no surprise.

It’s super easy for businesses to create, place, and show an ad to internet users by utilizing the advertising platforms of tech giants like Facebook and Google, which dominate the digital ad space.

Interestingly, even though the pandemic caused a huge hit to the online advertising industry, online ad spend still managed to grow by 1.7% in the US in 2020. In fact, Statista predicts worldwide digital advertising revenues to surge from 2019’s $333.8 billion to $491.1 billion by 2025 with a 5.67% Compound Annual Growth Rate (CAGR).

Due to the current nature of the online advertising landscape, consumers have developed strategies and mechanisms to cope with the massive amount of ads they encounter.

Much to the chagrin of advertisers, consumers are interacting with less and less ads, decreasing the return on investment (“ROI”) for advertisers, i.e., making advertising dollars spent less profitable for advertisers.

Consumers can hardly be blamed for wanting to distance themselves from online ads; indeed, they face numerous issues with the current state of digital advertising, including:

  1. Disturbing user experience: Imagine being bombarded by ads while reading this article with banners placed on the sides, the top, and the bottom of the page, as well as after every second or third paragraph. And, to make it extra annoying, imagine having to avoid the dreaded pop-up, which websites increasingly use despite the fact that pop-ups irritate about 73% of internet users, according to a HubSpot survey.
  2. Interrupting primary activities: In addition to being annoying, some ads even interrupt internet users’ primary activities. Take YouTube ads before videos or promotions in smartphone games as examples, which keep consumers waiting before they can access the publishers’ content.
  3. Slowdowns and battery drainage: While trackers and banners are being loaded, large numbers of unoptimized ads can appear and take their toll on applications’ and websites’ performance. According to an Opera study, a website is 51% slower on average when ads are displayed than with blocked advertisements. In addition to performance issues, the firm revealed that ads can also drain the battery life of devices by nearly 13%.
  4. Security concerns: In the past few years, malvertising has become a real issue for internet users. Malvertising refers to spreading malware and viruses via online advertising and was responsible for roughly 1% of the ad impressions in May 2019. In addition to infecting user devices, cybercriminals also use digital advertising to attract victims with fraudulent schemes.
  5. Lack of privacy: Have you ever visited an ecommerce store without making a purchase just to later encounter the same business’ ads on social media? Besides advertisements, most websites and platforms on the internet use web trackers to collect, store, and share data about the visitors’ online activities. As a result of exchanging user information with third parties, advertising networks know everything about you, diminishing your privacy on the web.

What Is an Ad Blocker?

An ad blocker is a software solution capable of preventing advertisements from showing for the user while browsing the web or utilizing an application.

Contrary to their name, most ad blockers do not actually block advertisements. Instead, they stop ads from downloading on your browser by disabling requests that include advertising-related content.

As a result, users can enjoy a mostly ad-free experience with enhanced security, privacy, and device performance without being exposed to intrusive content.

How Do Ad Blockers Work?

Ad blocking software solutions use simple filter lists containing URLs to identify and block advertisement-related content on websites and applications.

In web browsers, ad blockers work in the following way:

  1. Upon visiting a website, the ad blocker checks its filter list to see whether the site is included.
  2. If the search returns positive results, the ad blocking software blocks requests to external content, which prevents the advertisement from getting downloaded and shown on the page.

Instead of completely disabling the request, other ad blocking services replace the advertising content with something else after identifying it.

No matter the method used to disable advertisements, filter lists play a key role in the ad blocking process.

For that reason, filter lists are regularly maintained and updated by both the creators and third-party communities independent of the developers.

Most ad blockers allow users to whitelist the ads of different websites, services, and applications. By doing so, they can support the creators, prevent possible ad blocking-related page issues, or unlock the content of publishers that use ad block walls.

Many ad blockers provide protection against all kinds of intrusive content, such as advertisements, malware, and web trackers, across many applications, web browsers, and devices.

At the same time, some ad blocking software solutions can only disable unwanted content in specific apps and devices.

How Do Ad Blockers Make Money?

Not all ad blockers are created equal, as some are more effective in providing a distraction-free experience to users than others.

An excellent way to determine an ad blocking solution’s efficiency is by examining the service provider’s business model.

Ad blockers can make money in multiple ways, with the most popular methods including:

  1. Free: Some ad blockers function as open-source apps that are available to users for free. While they are maintained by the community, free solutions often finance their development via donations. A good example of this business model is uBlock Origin. However, strangely enough, the project’s creator doesn’t accept any donations. Instead, the developer decided not to create a dedicated website or a forum for the ad blocker in order to cut the maintenance costs.
  2. Paid service: Instead of resorting to the community’s help and donations, many ad blocking software solutions offer services in exchange for an upfront payment or a subscription fee.
  3. Freemium: Freemium is a popular business model among software solutions, and multiple ad blockers use it. Here, users can utilize only a part of the features for free. Optionally, they can pay a one-time or monthly subscription fee to access more powerful ad blocking functions.
  4. Whitelisting some of the ads: Certain ad blockers use a rather controversial business model. While they offer their services for free to users, the creators whitelist a share of ads that allegedly follow “acceptable” advertising practices. However, some ad blockers offer whitelisting services for advertisers in exchange for a payment or a cut from their ad revenue.

Why Do You Need an Ad Blocker and What Benefits Does it Offer?

An ad blocker is a must-have for those who want to enjoy an advertisement-free experience in the digital space.

Ad blockers offer the following benefits to users:

  1. Improved user experience: Users can achieve a distraction-and intrusion-free experience on the internet by using an ad blocker to eliminate advertisements. As a result, they can conveniently browse the web or use their favorite apps without worrying about getting bombarded by advertisers’ offers.
  2. Enhanced security and privacy: Most ad blockers have built-in features to detect, spot, and block malicious and fraudulent ads on the internet. In addition to eliminating malvertising, users can also enjoy increased privacy by disabling web trackers. Furthermore, ad blocking is an excellent way to protect children from inappropriate advertisements on the web.
  3. Faster page load times: Ad blockers can improve browsing speed and application performance by getting rid of bloated and unoptimized ads. While users have access to a more seamless experience, businesses can also benefit from the lower bounce rates achieved via faster page load times.
  4. Optimized battery life and mobile data usage: As ads take a heavy toll on device batteries, preventing them from loading can save energy and achieve better runtimes. The lack of ads can also reduce the mobile data usage of consumers.
  5. Potential savings on impulse shopping: By eliminating ads, the number of offers internet users encounter will significantly decrease. They can take advantage of this to reduce their unnecessary expenses, refrain from impulse purchases, increase their savings, and limit their chances of getting targeted by fraudulent companies.

What Are the Possible Downsides and Limitations of Ad Blocking?

As with every software, ad blockers have some limitations and downsides, such as:

  1. Broken content: Since ad blockers disable all advertising and tracking-related content of a website, it can lead to an unwanted experience on some occasions. When the app blocks an important request, the site may display broken content to the user.
  2. Inability to access content: As some publishers still utilize ad block walls, refusing to disable ad blocking software can prevent users from accessing certain apps and websites.
  3. Can’t block all ads: Unfortunately, although they can block most advertisements, ad blockers can’t provide a fully ad-free experience to users. Furthermore, the number of unblocked advertisements increases for ad blockers that adopt the whitelisting business model.
  4. Lack of support for content creators: Some content creators use digital advertising exclusively to monetize their solutions. Using an ad blocker without whitelisting them could reduce their revenue and limit their growth.

How Does Ad Blocking Impact Publishers and Advertisers?

According to Statista, ad blocking penetration was expected to surge from 2014’s 15.7% to 27% by 2021 in the United States.

In fact, ad blocking solutions were adopted much faster, with the technology’s penetration reaching 27% by February 2018 among US users.

Since many users are blocking ads on their devices, it has a major impact on advertising networks and businesses.

The good news for advertisers is that they don’t have to pay a dime for advertisements targeting ad block users (as they don’t get shown at all).

However, as a significant share of consumers have opted out of receiving ads from advertisers on the internet, this also means that businesses have a smaller audience to target.

At the same time, publishers are hit harder by ad blocking tech as a part of their visitors won’t interact with the ads displayed on their platforms, causing a revenue loss for the firms.

However, ad blocking impacts giant digital advertising networks (e.g., Facebook Ads, Google Ads) the most.

The more users install ad blockers, the fewer impressions and interactions advertisements get, decreasing the revenue networks make by connecting publishers and advertisers.

Countermeasures From Publishers

As ad blocking means a significant threat to the digital advertising industry’s current state, many publishers and networks have decided to take steps against ad blocker solutions.

One of the most popular ways publishers have used to reclaim their lost revenue is automatically detecting ad blockers upon user website visits.

When an ad blocker is detected, a publisher may decide to display a message to the user to convince him to disable the software.

However, others have taken a more harsh stance by installing an ad block wall that denies access to the site’s content until the user disables its ad blocking software.

While the latter method seemed to work initially, researchers discovered that 74% of users would leave a website with an ad block wall set up.

Due to these methods’ lack of success, businesses have joined initiatives like Acceptable Ads and the Coalition for Better Ads that require both publishers and advertisers to apply a variety of pro-consumer and user-friendly digital advertising standards.

By showing only heavily optimized ads to users, publishers of these initiatives can get their advertisements whitelisted as ad blockers participating in the programs.

What Are the Best Methods to Block Ads?

In this section, we have collected the best methods you can use to block ads in the digital world.

Let’s see them!

1. Browser Extensions

Examples: uBlock Origin, Adblock Plus, AdBlock

One of the most popular ways to block ads is by installing the software via a browser extension.

Here, the user visits its browser’s add-on store and sets up the ad blocker as a free extension.

Upon successful installation, the ad block browser extension will screen content for trackers, advertisements, and malware. After applying the filter lists, the ad blocker tells the browser whether to allow or disable an element.

Based on the rules the solution uses, it can leave whitespace where the ad would be normally displayed, replace it with other content, or just simply hide the element.

As a result, users can get rid of most ads while surfing the web via the browser where the ad blocker extension is installed.

On the other hand, since it’s a browser extension, the ad blocker doesn’t have access and can’t block unwanted content in other apps installed on the device.

2. Ad Block Browsers

Examples: Opera, Brave, Firefox Focus

Ad block browsers are internet browsers with built-in ad blocking capabilities.

They work very similarly to ad block browser extensions as they can effectively disable advertisements on the web.

While users don’t have to worry much about installing an extension to eliminate ads, browsers with built-in ad blocking features are often well-optimized and feature better performance than extensions.

It’s also important to mention privacy browsers. Instead of blocking ads, these solutions disable web trackers to ensure a high privacy level for users.

3. Mobile Ad Blockers

Examples: Wipr, 1Blocker, Blokada, AdAway

According to Statcounter, mobile devices have accounted for 55% of the internet traffic compared to desktop’s 45% in April 2023.

With smartphone devices taking the lead, it shouldn’t come as a surprise that mobile ad blocking has become popular among users.

In fact, while desktop was standing at 236 million, active mobile ad block users grew to 527 million by Q4 2019, according to PageFair’s 2020 AdBlock Report.

In addition to the web, mobile users encounter many ads within the apps they have installed on their devices.

For that reason, they can install an ad blocker for iOS or Android to disable ads both on the web and in applications.

As a side note, since browsers do not support extensions on some mobile devices, ad block browsers have become increasingly popular on smartphones.

If you want to learn more about mobile ad blocking, we recommend taking a look at the following Permission.io articles where we compared the best iOS and Android ad blockers.

4. Cross-Device Ad Blockers

Examples: AdGuard, NextDNS

Some ad blocking solutions offer protection against advertisements across multiple devices.

As a result, users can access apps and browser extensions on desktops, tablets, and smartphones to get rid of unwanted content with a single solution.

With a package of apps and browser extensions, cross-device ad blockers utilize various methods to eliminate advertisements.

On the flip side, cross-device ad blocking support is often a paid service without the option to access the service for free.

5. DNS Filtering

Examples: AdGuard DNS, DNSCloak

An effective method to block advertisements is via DNS filtering.

DNS stands for the Domain Name System that is responsible for matching domain names with IP addresses, allowing users to access content on the web without remembering the technical details and a confusing list of numbers.

The process works similarly to calling a friend. Instead of memorizing his number every time, you have it saved in your smartphone contacts so you can call him with a single tap. This is the exact reason why the DNS is often referred to as the “address book” of the internet.

With DNS filtering, the user connects to a DNS server configured to block access to either IP addresses or domain names seeking to display ads to the user. In addition to advertisements, DNS filtering also protects users from web trackers and malicious content.

When an app or a website sends an unwanted request, the modified DNS server refuses to reply with an IP address and instead sends a null response.

Similarly to browser extension-based ad blockers, the DNS filtering method also uses blocklists to identify and disable undesirable content. For that reason, the service provider must update the filter lists often to prevent advertisers from bypassing the DNS server.

Since DNS filtering blocks all unwanted requests coming from the web, this method can effectively provide system-wide protection against ads to internet users.

6. VPN

Examples: NordVPN, Surfshark

Virtual Private Networks (VPNs) are popular tools that allow users to disguise their online identity and encrypt their internet traffic.

To achieve that, the network redirects the user’s IP address through a configured remote server operated by a VPN host.

As a result, the VPN server becomes the source of the user’s data, helping to hide the data he or she sends or receives online from Internet Service Providers (ISPs) and other third-parties.

Since VPNs allow users to connect to servers in numerous countries and locations, they can use such solutions to bypass geo-blocks and access regional content on the web.

In addition to all the above, multiple VPN solutions feature built-in ad blocking to eliminate malware, trackers, and online advertisements.

While this method works similarly to DNS filtering, VPN ad blockers offer a one-stop solution to eliminating unwanted content and in apps across all devices connected to the user’s network.

However, for ad blocking to work, the user’s devices have to be continuously connected to the VPN network.

For that reason, it’s essential to test the performance of the VPN solution to avoid traffic-related issues and ensure a seamless user experience.

7. Hardware Devices

Examples: Pi-Hole

In the above sections, we have introduced software-based solutions to block advertisements on the web and in applications.

Now let’s examine a method that uses a hardware device for the same purpose.

Currently, the only viable hardware ad blocker on the market is called the Pi-Hole, which uses a Raspberry Pi to block advertisements on the network level.

For that, users have to configure the Raspberry Pi as a Pi-Hole, setting up a local DNS server that filters all content coming through the network and disables requests related to malware, advertisements, or web tracking.

Interestingly, the Pi-Hole replaces any pre-existing DNS server (including the ISP’s) on the user’s network with its own, allowing the device to block ads on devices like smart TVs that software-based ad blockers normally can’t reach.

While Pi-Hole is a free and open-source ad blocking solution, users have to purchase the necessary kit (e.g., a Raspberry Pi or another compatible device) to protect their networks against advertisements.

Also, as users have to manually configure the device to set up a Pi Hole, they have to possess at least minimal technical knowledge.

In terms of ad blocking, Pi Hole’s protection against unwanted content only works when the user is connected to his home private network (or the location where the device is installed to block ads).

Ad Blocking: The Key to a Distraction-Free Internet

Ad blocking is an excellent way to disable annoying advertisements, intrusive trackers, and malicious content. As a result of ad blocking, you can have a seamless, distraction-free experience while browsing the web or using your favorite apps on your device.

Additionally, ad blockers also improve your device’s performance, enhance your privacy and security, as well as limit your data and battery usage.

With that said, consider supporting your favorite content creators by whitelisting their advertisements via such an ad blocking solution.

An Alternative Solution to Preserving Privacy and Security

Meet Permission, the next-generation, blockchain-powered advertising platform that allows users to decide whether and how businesses can interact with their data and target them with ads.

In exchange for consenting to view an ad (which involves volunteering their time and data), users get rewarded in ASK cryptocurrency for engaging with advertisers and participating in their campaigns on Permission.

Users are free to hold, transfer, exchange, or spend their ASK rewards directly at Permission.io’s REDEEM store. Instead of forcing people to view their offers, advertisers on the Permission.io platform display relevant, personalized content exclusively to users who have given their permission to do so.

As a result, advertisers will experience increased engagement and ROI while building fruitful, long-term relationships with a loyal customer base.

Create an account at Permission!

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Before a Child Can Tell Fact From Fiction

Before children are developmentally equipped to distinguish fact from fiction, digital systems have already begun influencing how they think, what captures their attention, and how they begin forming their sense of identity.

Social media platforms no longer function as just communication tools today. They increasingly shape how children develop self-worth, regulate emotion, build social relationships, and understand the world around them.

For years, concerns surrounding children’s relationship with technology were often dismissed as parental anxiety or treated as speculation. That argument is becoming harder to sustain.

Across courtrooms, regulatory investigations, internal company disclosures, and mounting scientific research, a clear pattern is emerging: some of the world’s largest technology companies have built systems that maximize engagement by exploiting psychological vulnerabilities in young users, while parents remain largely unaware of what they have actually consented to.

The issue is no longer whether these systems pose risks to children.

The more urgent question is whether the systems themselves will fundamentally change, or whether society will continue documenting the damage in real time while continuing to participate in the very system that creates it. 

The Environment Around Childhood Has Changed

The environment children grow up in has changed.

Why are children so easily targeted by these platforms? In adolescence, the regions that govern judgment and emotional steadiness are still maturing, while those that respond to approval, comparison, and reward are already highly active. These platforms are designed to pull on exactly those urges - through likes, notifications, feeds that never end, and "recommended for you" videos that keep coming.

The American Psychological Association has warned that this combination leaves minors more prone to compulsive use, and more exposed to the emotional toll of measuring themselves by how others react to them online.

As reported in Parenting in the Age of AI: Why Tech Is Making Parenting Harder — and What Parents Can Do, parenting got harder because the environment has shifted.

For the first time, families are raising children inside digital environments designed to maximize engagement  and continuously compete for attention. Traditional parenting tools now operate against these systems that are created to keep children online for as long as possible.

What many parents experience as daily frustration is often not a parenting challenge. It is the result of an environment intentionally optimized to override the limits parents try to set.

What the Lawsuits Prove

For years, the harm caused by digital platforms was “alleged.” 

That is changing rapidly.

Between 2024 and 2026, a series of major lawsuits against companies including Meta, TikTok, Google, Character.AI and OpenAI have moved beyond accusation and into courtrooms where evidence is now being publicly examined.

These lawsuits all share something important: they don't blame a single video or post for harming a child. They blame how the apps themselves are built — the endless scroll, the recommendations that decide what your child sees next, the AI designed to keep them watching.

For years, companies argued they couldn't be held responsible for what users posted on their platforms. These cases now point to the design itself, the features built to capture and hold a child's attention. Courts are now increasingly letting those claims move forward. 

The courts, claims, design features and outcomes are laid out in Appendix A.

The Pattern

Across nearly every major lawsuit involving child safety and digital platforms, an alarming pattern continues to repeat itself.

  • Internal research identifies harm early.
  • Executives are made aware of developmental, psychological, and behavioral risks to minors.
  • Product teams continue implementing design choices that increase engagement despite those findings.
  • Public messaging continues emphasizing safety while internal evidence often tells a different story.

Only after years of public pressure do regulators or courts intervene.

When growth and user wellbeing compete, technology companies have repeatedly demonstrated which one wins. While accountability has almost always arrived only after harm has already occurred.

The Consent Parents Never Gave

At the center of nearly every child safety dispute in technology sits a deeper issue that receives far less attention: consent.

Modern internet platforms operate under the assumption that consent has been obtained simply because a user clicked “I agree.”

But clicking “I agree” was never meaningful consent.

Meaningful consent requires understanding consequences.

Yet most parents are never clearly told:

  • How algorithms shape what children see.
  • How behavioral data is continuously collected and analyzed.
  • How engagement systems are designed around psychological reward loops.
  • How platforms measure emotional responses, attention patterns, and behavioral tendencies to optimize retention.
  • How artificial intelligence systems increasingly personalize influence in ways families cannot see.

Parents were never fully informed about the environments their children were entering.

Will Anything Change?

What gets accepted today becomes the default tomorrow. 

The risks, the design choices and the outcomes are now well documented.

Much of what happens next will be shaped by a series of major bellwether cases already underway. The 2026 verdicts in K.G.M. v. Meta and State of New Mexico v. Meta were early signals.

Federal litigation is now accelerating through MDL 3047, where more than 2,600 cases against major tech companies have been consolidated, with the first federal bellwether trial beginning in June 2026.

The outcomes of these cases will help define the future relationship between families and technology.

At Permission, we closely monitor this litigation because it keeps returning to the same core truth: parents deserve to know what their children are actually consenting to — and children deserve to grow up in environments designed to support their development, not exploit their vulnerabilities.

Parents deserve to understand these environments while they are still evolving, not years later, after the consequences are already visible. And children deserve to grow up in environments designed to support their development, not exploit their vulnerabilities.

Learn more about why AI needs permission (and what it means for your family) at AI needs Permission. Permission is actively tracking this litigation and the broader shift it represents for families, AI, and the future of consent online.

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What Every Parent Needs to Know Before Handing Over the iPad

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Spring Break used to mean board games and bike rides.

Now it means 8+ hours a day on TikTok, Roblox, Snapchat.

Most kids are back in school now. But if you noticed something a little off this past week, you're not imagining it. If you're still bracing for the screentime fights, the "just five more minutes" negotiations, the device-at-dinner standoffs, you're not alone. But there's a better way to handle this than becoming the screentime police.

Here's what's actually happening on your kids' devices, and what you can do about it:

The honest truth: more free time = higher risk of social media addiction

During school breaks, kids average 3.5-4 extra hours of screen time per day.

That's not just YouTube and Minecraft. That's unstructured time on platforms that are designed by teams of engineers and behavioral psychologists to keep your child scrolling, clicking, and coming back.

In 2026, it's not just the amount that's shifted — since 2020, daily time on short-form video like TikTok and Reels has increased 14x for younger children.

This isn't an accident. A former Meta researcher described Instagram internally as "a drug." A YouTube internal document listed "viewer addiction" as a goal. A Meta employee even told colleagues: “We're basically pushers.”

Spring Break is one of the highest-risk weeks of the year for unsupervised screen use. More free time, less structure, and the same algorithms running 24 hours a day, messing with your children's attention around the clock.

What's actually happening on the platforms your kids use most

TikTok and Instagram use dopamine loops, short bursts of reward, to make scrolling feel impossible to stop. There is no natural endpoint. The algorithm learns what keeps your child watching and serves more of it, regardless of whether it's healthy. Landmark 2026 jury verdicts have recently found these platforms liable for intentionally designing addictive features that contribute to depression and anxiety in minors.

Roblox and Discord are where a lot of the real danger hides. Unmoderated voice chat, private group invitations, and off-platform contact attempts are common. Predators use these platforms specifically because parents underestimate them. Current multidistrict litigation (MDL 3166) alleges that these companies have failed to implement basic safeguards to prevent the grooming and exploitation of children.

Character.ai and ChatGPT don't verify ages. Kids as young as 8 are forming emotional attachments to AI companions, sharing things they'd never tell a parent or friend. There is no guardrail on what those conversations become. Recent wrongful death lawsuits highlight cases where minors engaged in harmful, obsessive relationships with AI, leading to tragic outcomes.

Snapchat was built around disappearing content, which means disappearing evidence. AI nudification tools are now accessible to teenagers directly through third-party apps that connect to Snapchat. State Attorneys General in Texas and New Mexico have filed suits alleging the platform is a "marketplace for predators" and facilitates the spread of non-consensual deepfake material.

This isn't about scaring you. It's about making sure you're not the last to know.

Stop being the screentime police. Become their coach instead.

Here's the shift that actually works.

The screentime police approach, counting minutes, setting timers, fighting nightly, doesn't build safe habits. It builds resentment. And the moment your kid is out from under your roof, those habits disappear entirely.

The better approach is mentorship. Think about how a great coach works. They don't bench their best player for making a mistake. They show them what went wrong, explain why it matters, and help them do better next time. That's what your kid needs from you on digital safety.

That means shifting from how long they're on a device to what they're seeing and whether they know how to handle it. A 15-minute conversation about what to do when a stranger DMs them on Discord is worth more than a screentime timer.

You don't need to be a tech expert to have that conversation. You just need the right information and the right words.

Three things to do this week (that aren't "take the phone away")

  1. Know which platforms they're actually using. Ask your kid to show you their five most-used apps. Don't make it an interrogation, make it curious. "What's this one? What do you do on it?" You'll learn more in five minutes than any parental control software will tell you.
  2. Have one real conversation, not ten small arguments. Pick a moment when you're both relaxed, not when you're already frustrated about screen time. Tell them what you know about how these platforms work. Not to lecture, to inform. Kids respond much better to "here's how TikTok is designed to keep you scrolling" than "put the phone down."
  3. Set expectations together, not rules from above. Ask your kid what they think fair looks like. You'll be surprised. Most kids actually have a sense of what's healthy, they just need permission to use it. Building the agreement together means they're far more likely to stick to it.

What your family values have to do with it

Every family is different. What's acceptable in one household isn't in another, and that's exactly how it should be.

The problem with most parental control tools is that they're built around a one-size-fits-all set of restrictions. Block this app. Limit that one. It creates friction, not understanding.

The better approach starts with your values. What do you actually care about for your kids? Safety, yes, but also independence, trust, and the skills they'll need when you're not there. The goal isn't to block everything. It's to raise a kid who makes good choices when you're not in the room.

Trusted AI for the Family. Built for Spring Break and beyond.

This is exactly why we built Permission AI for the Family.

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Parenting In the Age of AI: Why Tech Is Making Parenting Harder – and What Parents Can Do

Jan 29th, 2026
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Many parents sense a shift in their children’s environment but can’t quite put their finger on it.

Children aren't just using technology. Conversations, friendships, and identity formation are increasingly taking place online - across platforms that most parents neither grew up with nor fully understand. 

Many parents feel one step behind and question: How do I raise my child in a tech world that evolves faster than I can keep up with?

Why Parenting Feels Harder in the Digital Age

Technology today is not static. AI-driven and personalized platforms adapt faster than families can.

Parents want to raise their children to live healthy, grounded lives without becoming controlling or disconnected. Yet, many parents describe feeling:

  • “Outpaced by the evolution of AI and Algorithms”
  • “Disconnected from their children's digital lives”
  • “Concerned about safety when AI becomes a companion”
  • “Frustrated with insufficient traditional parental controls”

Research shows this shift clearly:

  • 66% of parents say parenting is harder today than 20 years ago, citing technology as a key factor. 
  • Reddit discussions reveal how parents experience a “nostalgia gap,”  in which their own childhoods do not resemble the digital worlds their children inhabit.
  • 86% of parents set rules around screen use, yet only about 20% follow these rules consistently, highlighting ongoing tension in managing children’s device use.

Together, these findings suggest that while parents are trying to manage technology, the tools and strategies available to them haven’t kept pace with how fast digital environments evolve.

Technology has made parenting harder.

The Pressure Parents Face Managing Technology

Parents are repeatedly being told that managing their children's digital exposure is their responsibility.

The message is subtle but persistent: if something goes wrong, it’s because “you didn’t do enough.”

This gatekeeper role is an unreasonable expectation. Children’s online lives are always within reach, embedded in education, friendships, entertainment, and creativity. Expecting parents to take full control overlooks the reality of modern childhood, where digital life is constant and unavoidable.

This expectation often creates chronic emotional and somatic guilt for parents. At the same time, AI-driven platforms are continuously optimized to increase engagement in ways parents simply cannot realistically counter.

As licensed clinical social worker Stephen Hanmer D'Eliía explains in The Attention Wound: What the attention economy extracts and what the body cannot surrender, "the guilt is by design." Attention-driven systems are engineered to overstimulate users and erode self-regulation (for children and adults alike). Parents experience the same nervous-system overload as their kids, while lacking the benefit of growing up with these systems. These outcomes reflect system design, not parental neglect.

Ongoing Reddit threads confirm this reality. Parents describe feeling behind and uncertain about how to guide their children through digital environments they are still learning to understand themselves. These discussions highlight the emotional and cognitive toll that rapidly evolving technology places on families.

Parenting In A Digital World That Looks Nothing Like The One We Grew Up In

Many parents instinctively reach for their own childhoods as a reference point but quickly realize that comparison no longer works in today’s world.  Adults remember life before smartphones; children born into constant digital stimulation have no such baseline.

Indeed, “we played outside all day” no longer reflects the reality of the world children are growing up in today. Playgrounds are now digital. Friendships, humor, and creativity increasingly unfold online.

This gap leaves parents feeling unqualified. Guidance feels harder when the environment is foreign, especially when society expects and insists you know how.

Children Are Relying on Chatbots for Emotional Support Over Parents

AI has crossed a threshold: from tool to companion.

Children are increasingly turning to chatbots for conversation and emotional support, often in private.

About one-in-ten parents with children ages 5-12 report that their children use AI chatbots like ChatGPT or Gemini. They ask personal questions, share worries, and seek guidance on topics they feel hesitant to discuss with adults.

Many parents fear that their child may rely on AI first instead of coming to them. Psychologists warn that this shift is significant because AI is designed to be endlessly available and instantly responsive (ParentMap, 2025).

Risks include:

  • Exposure to misinformation.
  • Emotional dependency on systems that can simulate care but cannot truly understand or respond responsibly.
  • Blurred boundaries between human relationships and machine interaction.

Reporting suggests children are forming emotionally meaningful relationships with AI systems faster than families, schools, and safeguards can adapt (Guardian, 2025; After Babel, 2025b)

Unlike traditional tools, AI chatbots are built for constant availability and emotional responsiveness, which can blur boundaries for children still developing judgment and self-regulation — and may unintentionally mirror, amplify, or reinforce negative emotions instead of providing the perspective and limits that human relationships offer.

Why Traditional Parental Controls are Failing

Traditional parental controls were built for an “earlier internet,” one where parents could see and manage their children online. Today’s internet is algorithmic.

Algorithmic platforms bypass parental oversight by design. Interventions like removing screens or setting limits often increase conflict, secrecy, and addictive behaviors rather than teaching self-regulation or guiding children on how to navigate digital spaces safely (Pew Research, 2025; r/Parenting, 2025).

A 2021 JAMA Network study found video platforms popular with kids use algorithms to recommend content based on what keeps children engaged, rather than parental approval. Even when children start with neutral searches, the system can quickly surface videos or posts that are more exciting. These algorithms continuously adapt to a child’s behavior, creating personalized “rabbit holes” of content that change faster than any screen-time limit or parental control can manage.

Even the most widely used parental control tools illustrate this limitation in practice, focusing on: 

  • reacting after exposure (Bark)
  • protecting against external risks (Aura)
  • limiting access (Qustodio)
  • tracking physical location (Life360)

What they largely miss is visibility into the algorithmic systems and personalized feeds that actively shape children’s digital experiences in real time.

A Better Approach to Parenting in the Digital Age

In a world where AI evolves faster than families can keep up, more restrictions won’t solve the disconnection between parents and children. Parents need tools and strategies that help them stay informed and engaged in environments they cannot fully see or control.

Some companies, like Permission, focus on translating digital activity into clear insights, helping parents notice patterns, understand context, and respond thoughtfully without prying.

Raising children in a world where AI moves faster than we can keep up is about staying present, understanding the systems shaping children’s digital lives, and strengthening the human connection that no algorithm can replicate.

What Parents Can Do in a Rapidly Changing Digital World

While no single tool or rule can solve these challenges, many parents ask what actually helps in practice.

Below are some of the most common questions parents raise — and approaches that research and lived experience suggest can make a difference.

Do parents need to fully understand every app, platform, or AI tool their child uses?

No. Trying to keep up with every platform or feature often increases stress without improving outcomes.

What matters more is understanding patterns: how digital use fits into a child’s routines, moods, sleep, and social life over time. Parents don’t need perfect visibility into everything their child does online; they need enough context to notice meaningful changes and respond thoughtfully.

What should parents think about AI tools and chatbots used by kids?

AI tools introduce a new dynamic because they are:

  • always available
  • highly responsive
  • designed to simulate conversation and support

This matters because children may turn to these tools privately, for curiosity, comfort, or companionship. Rather than reacting only to the technology itself, parents benefit from understanding how and why their child is using AI, and having age-appropriate conversations about boundaries, trust, and reliance.

How can parents stay involved without constant monitoring or conflict?

Parents are most effective when they can:

  • notice meaningful shifts early
  • understand context before reacting
  • talk through digital choices rather than enforce rules after the fact

This shifts digital parenting from surveillance to guidance. When children feel supported rather than watched, conversations tend to be more open, and conflict is reduced.

What kinds of tools actually support parents in this environment?

Tools that focus on insight rather than alerts, and patterns rather than isolated moments, are often more helpful than tools that simply report activity after something goes wrong.

Some approaches — including platforms like Permission — are designed to translate digital activity into understandable context, helping parents notice trends, ask better questions, and stay connected without hovering. The goal is to support parenting decisions, not replace them.

The Bigger Picture

Parenting in the age of AI isn’t about total control, and it isn’t about stepping back entirely.

It’s about helping kids:

  • develop judgment
  • understand digital influence
  • build healthy habits
  • stay grounded in human relationships

As technology continues to evolve, the most durable form of online safety comes from understanding, trust, and connection — not from trying to surveil or outpace every new system.